By Samantha Parrish-


We are coming into the season of resolutions.  I have written to you all about resolutions previously and while I am all for making changes and ‘turning over a new leaf’, I am not a fan of waiting till Jan 1st to do so.  I won’t get into that today.  What I want to talk about today is one of my least favorite emotions that often goes along with resolutions – regret.


Regret is described as:
a negative cognitive/emotional state that involves blaming ourselves for a bad outcome, feeling a sense of loss or sorrow at what might have been or wishing we could undo a previous choice that we made.


So often we think that in order to move forward we must dissect the past- analyze our past mistakes.  That is not entirely true.  There really is not much value or benefit in regretting our past actions.  Regret does not change the outcome; it doesn’t help us to do better in the future.  In fact, I would say it hinders our ability to move forward.  I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “There is a reason why the windshield is so large and the rearview mirror so small – we need to spend our time looking forward.”  Rehashing what would, could, should or did happen in the past only keeps you stuck there.


I know that this is easier said than done as I tend to lean to the emotional side in most things.  When planning your goals for the New Year, let’s think more reflection, less regret.  Don’t forget that failure is a part of the process; it can never (and should never) be fully avoided.  When reevaluating our goals going forward, it’s ok to admit that something didn’t work for us in 2017 and that this year we want to do things differently.  But I challenge you to try and be as objective as possible, keep your emotions out of the process.  It’s one thing to learn from your mistakes or pick a better path based on your results; it’s another to live in sorrow of the past.


Here’s to 2018, may it be a productive year for us all!


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