How Do You Put a Good Face on a Difficult Situation?

By Jill E. Wolforth-

 

Coach Wolforth and I have never shied away from telling our story or sharing our experiences, both good and bad.  As teachers of young people, it often helps for parents to know we can empathize with them and their children.  Sometimes when you’re facing challenges, you feel like you’re on a deserted island all by yourself and just knowing that someone else has gone through what you’re going through can make a world of difference.

 

As of the writing of this article, our son Garrett is off to a very disappointing and painful offensive start to his third collegiate season.  He started the season going 1-16 (the bright spot being the one hit was a home run) immediately followed by another 1-11 stretch.

 

To make matters worse, during this period he was hit by a pitch in the calf and it quickly swelled up to the size of a softball.  As a result, he was not able to catch (something he truly loves to do, is very good at and knows is a way he can always contribute) for several games.

 

So, of course, as a parent you see and feel his pain. You don’t sleep well.  You wake-up hoping that with the new day comes a tiny ray of positive results, looking for any small sign of getting back on track.  You wrack your brain for the best way to communicate with him so as not to make matters worse yet at the same time attempting to ensure he knows you’re there in ANY way he needs you.

 

Coach Wolforth and I also wear our coaches/trainers hat all the time. From that perspective, this challenging time becomes about process over outcome, working through adversity, dealing with failure and controlling what you can control.

 

While sitting and waiting for the start of game a few days ago, I decided I needed to make better use of my time and pulled out my phone to read one of my I-books.  I hadn’t read from my phone in over a year and the first book that appeared when I opened the app… 

 

“The Obstacle is the Way” by Ryan Holliday. 

 

Wow!  Now there’s one for the Lord’s timing.

 

If you haven’t read it, you might want to pause now and purchase a copy.  If you’ve already read it, I encourage you to go back and read it again.  It’s that powerful and its message is universal for all of us:  “…obstacles are not only to be expected but embraced.  Embraced?  Yes, because these obstacles are actually opportunities to test ourselves, to try new things and, ultimately to triumph.”

 

So how do you put a good face on a difficult situation?  You don’t.  There’s no good or bad face.  It’s simply what it is.  You don’t make more or less of it.  As difficult as it is to do, you must force yourself to take the emotion out of the situation and deal with the facts, not your perception. 

 

As Holiday says in the book, “Remember that this moment is not your life, it’s just a moment in your life.  Focus on what is in front of you, right now.  Ignore what it “represents” or it “means” or “why” it happened to you.  There is plenty else going on right here to care about any of that.”

 

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SIDE NOTE:  The very weekend Garrett gets hit by a pitch, the following song played in the stadium.  It’s now on my playlist as it’s a good reminder.  Have a listen…

 

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